I know I’m super late on this, but I’ve just started watching Queer Eye on Netflix. I thought it was like RuPaul, that was one reason why I didn’t watch it. But now that I’ve started watching, I really enjoyed the show, and there are so many things to learn from it. It’s wisdom, real, truth presented in a light-hearted, entertaining way. Look pass the gayness and the before and after and you see real truth bombs there.
So the things that I learnt and actually picked up from them:
- Express yourself.
- Celebrate everything, even if you just made the bed.
- Be silly.
- Not only one thing defines you. Like, I guess I can understand now why I feel insufficient. Because in my head, I’m thinking, I need to be able to identify with something / a title, a front end developer. At the same time, I also think I’m not really good at that, so I can’t call myself a front end developer. I’m not really good at cooking or being motherly, so I’m not a mother either. As opposed to – this is me, and these are the things I’m good at. I’m trying to associate myself to a certain role, and try to mold myself to find that role. Like, there are checklists to tick in order for me to be qualified for that role.
- If I feel bad inside, dress up. It can make you feel better.
- Boundaries. Work space – home space boundaries.
- Tolerating things instead of making it to be how you want it. This I realised just now. I was imagining where I will pantang, and I instantly thought, the next room. And I caught and stopped myself, “No, I don’t want to stay here anymore when the baby comes. I want to pantang in my own house.” And I realise I need to start planning now, how many rooms I want, the space and interior that I want.
- Stopping to think for yourself and planning for your future is not wasting time. A lot of time we think, I can’t stop, I need to move on, I have so much on my plate right now, I’ll plan when I’m a lot less busy. But the problem is, we never stop being busy. We’ll always find something to do, something to binge watch on. Stopping and planning your life would be the best time spent because then you know where you want to go, and you won’t feel regret 5 years down the road, when you’ll think it’s too late to do anything and just… resign.
- Paying attention to your skin, teeth, hair, body, appearance means you have respect for yourself.
- Your surroundings, especially where you live and spend most your time, is a reflection of who and what you are inside. You can deny all you want, but it REALLY is showing the real you.
- Let emotions flow through you. You’re happy? Scream, laugh, dance! You’re sad? Go ahead and cry and let it out of your system. Be human.
- Being more open with your feelings. I need to work on this, in the terms of talking to people about what I feel. I have no problems typing it out, or writing in a book, but talking it with people? I have problems with that. But I have no issues talking to Vasos about stuff. Maybe because he’s a lifecoach and doesn’t impose his personal opinions on me. But yeah, maybe I need to open up more to my friends. But I don’t like listening to their problems or dramas. I think it’s a waste of my time. Like, figure it out on your own. I guess I’m empathic, but not sympathetic. I feel what you, I understand your issue, but dang, sort yourself out. I’m not at that level yet. Because I, myself, is still figuring out stuff, I can’t help you. But sometimes they don’t need help, they just want me to listen, but that also is hard for me to give. Because I’ve always been listening to friend’s problems, now I want to listen to my own problems.
Some of the things I already know of, but forgot and/or have not implemented in my life more often.
Okay, that last point hits me. My first thought is, I hate talking to people. But do I? No, I do love to talk to people. I used to make friends with random people on the streets. But now, I just want to stay away from people. Is it just because the MCO? Because I’m surrounded by my family 24/7? I don’t know.